I remember when I first got divorced, I didn’t want to be in another relationship. It was too soon. I’d spent so much time with one person that now I didn’t want to be attached. but, I did want to still go out and enjoy myself and meet new people. I didn’t know if I was the type for casual dating having been in long-term serious relationships. I would soon find out.
Most people who come out of long-term relationships tend to go right back into another serious relationship not too soon after a divorce. That’s what my ex-husband did. As for me, I wanted to take the time to myself and get to know different types of men and experience many different dates. No Strings Dating seemed very attractive to me but, I had no idea how to go about it. Was it a safe thing for a mother of two children to do? Would I just have an endless streak of dates and hookups?
It turned out to be one of the best decisions I could make. I enjoyed casual dating. I didn’t have to commit to one person. There was no need to invite the dates to my homes or to introduce them to my kids. I dated lawyers, police officers, accountants, actors, singers and even a doctor.
I know for some married people feel that having a marital affair is the same as casual dating. They don’t want to leave their partner or they have an open relationship and want to be refreshed. I don’t judge anyone’s situation. People have different ideas of what a relationship means to them. For me, casual dating was about variety without being attached to anyone.
If you’re thinking of casual dating here are some tips that I recommend:
Be Safe
Be safe is always the first thing people say when you set out to meet someone new and it’s my very first suggestion always when it comes to dating especially for women. Make sure you meet your dates in a public setting. It’s better to get to know them with other people around. If you want to feel safer you can share the person’s name and number with a friend or relative. I always made sure to share the person’s name and number with my aunt. I even let her know the location of the date. Of course, most people know not to go to their home or in their car on the first date but if you do and the end of the date leads to sex make sure to be safe. Carry condoms on you at all times. This goes for women too. It’s 2018 we should carry condoms.
Have Fun
The best part of the date is the actual date. Pick places that are on your bucket list. Might as well check off the list. When else are you going to find the time? Vary the times of dates. Schedule morning breakfast dates, afternoon or brunch dates and of course the standard evening dates. You can even take a dance or cooking class with your dates if they are into that. Don’t worry about being judged by your friends for your new found casual dating lifestyle. You’re an adult that can make their own choices
Try Dating Apps
Dating apps and online dating is not as taboo as it used to be. More and more people are going to online sites for causal dating. The best thing to do is sign up for several dating apps. Once you’re signed up you should vary your profiles to attract a variety of types. Pick one of your favorite sites and upgrade it to a paid membership to see what the enhanced features bring to your dating experience. Also, don’t forget to mention on your profiles that you are simply looking to casually date. Being honest will help to weed out people who are looking for long-term serious relationships and will match you to people who are looking for the same things you are looking to get out of the experience.
Date While Traveling
Have you seen how Stella Got Her Groove Back? That’s exactly what I’m talking about but without the ‘getting into a relationship’ part. It can be exhilarating to meet someone in a foreign country or even in a different state to casually date. You can choose to date just one person while on vacation or you can try and date a different person every day that you’re there. Whatever you decide it will definitely make your vacation more spicy and memorable.